11 Reasons to Love Formula Feeding

11 Reasons to Love Formula Feeding

Formula gets an awful lot of shaft these days. It’s a shame, because formula feeding is pretty phenomenal, in my humble opinion.


I breastfed my first child, and honestly, I wish I never had.


Yea, there were some beautiful moments. Making eye contact and kissing baby fingers while nursing was great and all, but those moments didn’t outweigh the lack of autonomy and abuse that I suffered under her 2.5 year reign of terror.


When it came to postpartum depression, breastfeeding was like throwing gasoline on an already raging fire.


Come baby #2 I really didn’t care if I breastfed or not. After reading this sibling study that looks at the long-term health results of breastfed and formula fed siblings, I’m pretty sure that my kid will be fine, Carol. Thanks for your concern.


Now that #2 has turned my nipples into teething toys, and the pump is begging to be chucked across the room, formula has become a dear friend.


You can still make eye contact and kiss baby fingers while bottle feeding. Contrary to the opinion of most lactivists, formula feeding is not like giving your baby crack.

Here are 11 reasons to love formula feeding




Everyone says to take care of yourself, yet no one seems to have a good answer for how to do that when somebody is making demands from your body around the clock.

Need some sleep? A hot shower? A few minutes of silence? Oh. Nobody was talking about that kind of self care.

Using formula allows you the freedom to take care of yourself whenever you need, however you need.



Makes you less homicidal

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The words, “Uh babe, I think she’s hungry” are a common trigger for new moms.

If you are resisting the urge to sucker punch your significant other several times a day, you aren’t alone.

The benefit of formula feeding, is that this becomes a non-issue. You think she’s hungry? Great. You have two hands. Use them to make a bottle. I’m going to sit right here and eat my dinner while it’s hot.

You don’t need to be milked like a cow

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Has anyone else had to sit in a room while being hooked up to a breast pump with people on the other side of the door?

If you’ve never felt like a literal cow, having a crowd of people listen to a machine extract milk from your udders boobs will do the trick.


You know exactly how much your baby has had to eatvia GIPHY

There is NO possible way to know how much your baby has consumed when breastfeeding.

I hate it when someone asks, as if I could somehow produce an answer. Um, could you please tell me where the measurements are on my breasts? I can’t find them…

Eliminates uncertainty

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She just drank 6 oz an hour ago, so no, she’s not hungry. Either she crapped herself or she’s bored. One thing is certain- She. Is. Not. Hungry.

Share the love and bonding

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You won’t like this if you’re the martyr type.

Assuming you’re not looking for a stake to throw yourself on, formula feeding is a pretty great way to have other people bond with your baby while you do normal life things like shower, cook, or yes, poop in peace.

Those are all really difficult to do with a kid sucking your boob. Trust me, I’ve done them all.

You get more sleep

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Oh sure, you could have your husband feed the baby expressed milk, but that means you need to wake up to pump those leaky boobs or risk mastitis.

Formula feeding lets you sleep as much as you want, assuming there is another adult around.

No pain but so much gain 

The early days of breastfeeding are brutal. Most babies can’t find a nipple if it’s staring them in the face and squirting milk directly into their mouth.

But when they do find it, hold on tight because you will be reminded of how cruel mother nature can be.

Eat and drink whatever you want!

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Wine, cheese, spicy food, caffeine! The world is your oyster, so eat it all! Nobody is going to get gassy and scream at the top of their lungs for 6 hours if you eat something they don’t like.

Nobody confronts you and your baby about conspiring to seduce their husband via GIPHY

Wait. What?

Yes, you heard that right. Unfortunately it happens.



Your body is completely yours


Nobody will ever scream “BOOBIES!” at the top of their lungs while hitting you and trying to rip your shirt off as you wait in line at the bank ever again. Thank god.

Breastfeeding can be great. I don’t want to discount that. Lots of women love it, and even find it addicting. Many mothers have fought hard to succeed and have no regrets.


But other women can’t do it, or straight up hate it. And that’s okay. If you fall into the latter category, know that you’re in good company. There is a rather large group of us who have been shamed into silence that would love to welcome you with open arms.



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Pumping Hack Guaranteed to Save You TONS of Time!

Pumping Hack Guaranteed to Save You TONS of Time!

All pumping moms know the headache of constantly washing pump parts. Do you remember the song that never ends? Well, that is your life now.


 But it doesn’t have to be. 

This stupid-easy hack will save you hours, if not days of being bent over the sink.

Ready for it?


Stick your pump parts in a plastic bag, and throw them in the fridge between pumping sessions.

That’s it!

Still wash and sanitize them daily of course.


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Speed up Pumping and Increase Milk Output

Speed up Pumping and Increase Milk Output

Who has time to hang out, attached to a breast pump for 4 hours a day? Nobody.


If you have come across this post, your time is probably limited and you have already lost your sh*t at least once today.


So I’m going to make this short and sweet.


The two tips to speed up pumping sessions and increase you milk output are

  1. Breast massage
  2. Breast compression


Do not, I repeat, do NOT strap on that pump and expect to extract every last drop of your liquid gold. Your milking sessions (yes, let’s just call a spade a spade) will take foreeeever and you will still fail.


Watch the pump. When your milk begins to slow down, stop. Massage your breasts in a circular motion, then reattach and squeeze your boobs to help push the milk out.


Repeat until your breasts are soft.

Doing this loosens the milk from the milk ducts. It allows you to gather more hind milk (the awesome, fatty kind) and pushes it out faster.

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If you have a single breast pump, using a haakka will speed things up by siphoning milk from the opposite breast.

If you don’t already have a pumping bra, I recommend the Simple Wishes DLITE bra because it is fully adjustable (size XS-L) and has two layers of thick fabric to hold the pump in place.

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Best Deal on Nursing Bras

Best Deal on Nursing Bras

If you are preparing to breastfeed, say goodbye to your old bras. Sadly, they won’t do the trick anymore.


Everything about your bust is going to expand and contract like a pool of water during a bipolar Minnesota spring.



You need a nursing bra that is suuuper stretchy, has padding to cover your bits when they start pointing out like Pinnochio’s nose, and doesn’t have underwires.


Underwire bras are one way to meet the devil himself- Mastitis.


Unless you like getting sucker punched in the boob and popping antibiotics like tic tacs, steer clear of underwire bras. Please.

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Almost all of my lactating friends also have them and love ’em.


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Breastfeeding in Public- Your Legal Rights and Tips for Success

Breastfeeding in Public- Your Legal Rights and Tips for Success

Confession: before having kids, I had a pretty douchey attitude toward breastfeeding in public.

I don’t remember it, but my mom vividly recalls me saying something harsh to my sister about covering up while she was feeding her newborn.



Being a jerk is not beyond me, so I don’t even question whether or not this happened. I trust my mother’s memory more than my own.


My sister was pretty good at blowing off my comment. She could care less what anyone thinks, especially me.


Now that I’m a breastfeeding mom, I am appalled by my former actions. I probably would have felt really hurt and ashamed if someone had said that to me.

To say that I deeply regret my words is an understatement.


After giving birth to my first daughter, it took all of three seconds for my boobs to move to the bottom of the sexual totem pole. My pinky toes now have more sex appeal.


During that time I also came to the realization that breastfeeding is really freaking hard! I needed all the support I could get.

If my only option was to cover up, it would have been impossible for me to leave the house. Like, ever.


So, while all of us breastfeeding moms aware that breastfeeding is far from sexual, and is actually extremely difficult, the rest of the world is still catching up.


Thankfully, the rest of the world has made great strides in recent years.

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What Does the Law Say About Breastfeeding in Public?

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In 2018, it officially became legal to breastfeed in public in all 50 states! Hurray! What took so long?!


Seriously, the right to feed a hungry baby should be a no-brainer.


While public breastfeeding is legal, each state words their laws about it a little differently.


Some states such as Florida state that they “allow a mother to breastfeed in any public or private location,” whereas states such as Iowa only specify “the right to breastfeed in any public place.”


What’s the difference between a public location and a private location? Good question.


According to Privacy Observer, “What determines whether a given location is public, is whether it is open to the public.”


Any privately owned business that is open to the public is considered a public location. It doesn’t matter if the land owner and the person who owns every single share despise breastfeeding without a cover, your rights remain.


That means that if Ted, the owner of the burger joint down the street tells you that you have to cover up because you have no right to breastfeed in his private business, you can tell him to shove it.


That’s right Ted, shove it.


If you were breastfeeding in Ted’s house, that would be another story. But who really wants to hang out at Ted’s house with their baby if he’s going to be like that?


Do you want to know exactly what the public breastfeeding laws are in your state? This website will tell you all about it.


I’m working on creating state-specific printables right now. That’s right, all 50 of them. It is a labor of love your you, my friends.


If you sign up below, I’ll send you the link to download your state printable as soon as they are ready! This should be somewhere between 1-3 weeks from now. It depends on how much work my toddler lets me do every day.




Tips for Breastfeeding in Public

Now that we have established that breastfeeding in public is completely legal, it’s time to learn how.


There’s no right or wrong way to breastfeed in public. You are fully within your rights to whip out your boob in front of anyone and everyone, or sneak it out stealthily.


The important thing is that you do what is comfortable for you.


If you’re like my sister who doesn’t care, go ahead and pull the whole thing out. Honestly, it’s the easiest way to feed a newborn.


But if you’re like some of my more modest friends, here are some tips to make breastfeeding in public a little less awkward for people who are only comfortable around dairy-free boobs:


  • Practice at home in front of a mirror. While your eyeballs might be full of nipple and areola, chances are high that those around you can’t see anything. Your baby’s head is going to obscure most, if not all of their view. Perfect your practice by getting an idea of what they see with a mirror.

  • Wear clothes designed specifically for breastfeeding. While it’s possible to breastfeed in most clothes, having some designed specifically for breastfeeding can make life a hellova lot easier, especially in the early days when babies aren’t very good at latching. I highly recommend nursing clothes because they are an easy way to breastfeed discreetly without carrying extra gear.


  • Use a nursing cover. Nursing covers come in a few different styles. Some loop around the back of your neck with a bendy metal thing to help you see baby’s face (top photo), while others are like a stretchy infinity scarf (bottom photo). Nursing covers can get warm, but they are the easiest way to breastfeed without the off-chance of someone getting a glimpse of skin *gasp*

  • Nurse your baby in a front carrier. Many baby carriers make it easy to breastfeed your baby while wearing them. This is very difficult if not impossible to do with newborns, but it gets increasingly easier as they get older. Most people will never guess that you’re breastfeeding. They’ll assume that your baby is taking a snooze.

How to Handle Uncomfortable Situations while breastfeeding in public


Just because breastfeeding in public is legal in all 50 states, it doesn’t mean that everyone knows it. A lot of people aren’t aware of the new laws in place to protect nursing mothers.


This means that it is entirely possible to run into uncomfortable situations.


Hopefully that never happens to you, but if it does, here are some tips to handle the situation:


  • Try to remain calm and turn your body away from the offender.

  • If you feel unsafe, don’t hesitate to call the police.

  • Whip out your handy dandy copy of your state’s breastfeeding laws. Sign up to get yours soon-ish.

  • Ask to speak to a manager.

  • File a complaint with the business. This can be done on the spot or at a later date when things have calmed down.

  • Report them to the Better Business Bureau.


If you thrive off of confrontation:

  • Videotape the encounter

  • Post said video to social media. Public awareness is priceless.
  • Stage a nurse-in with your friends because, why not?


Well, there you go friends. I hope this helps you breastfeed in public like the boss babe you are.


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Breastmilk Storage: Everything You Need to Know

Breastmilk Storage: Everything You Need to Know

How long can breastmilk sit out? Can you reuse milk that your baby doesn’t drink? What about re-freezing? Can you do that?


The whole process of storing, freezing, and thawing breastmilk is confusing. But if you’re a pumping mama, it’s unavoidable.


Here is everything you need to know about how to properly store, freeze, and heat breastmilk.


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How Long Can Breastmilk Sit out at Room Temperature?

Great question! According to the CDC, breastmilk can be stored at room temperature (77 degrees F/ 25 degrees C or cooler) for up to 4 hours.


For example, if you thought that your baby wanted more milk, but you both fell asleep for two hours before he drank from the bottle, you’re in the clear! You can still refrigerate the milk for later use.


I should note that the Mayo Clinic says that up to six hours is acceptable, assuming that the room is not particularly warm.


Clearly there is some level of flexibility here. If your house is 70 degrees and the milk is out for 4.5 hours, it’s not like it suddenly spoiled 30 min ago.


It’s always best to play it safe. If you’re a paranoid mom (no judgement here), you will probably feel more comfortable throwing it out right at the 4 hour mark.


But if you’re not a paranoid mom (again, no judgement either way), it’s not like you’re going to poison your baby by leaving it out for up to 6 hours.


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If my baby doesn’t finish a bottle, can I refrigerate that breastmilk and reheat it later?


Unfortunately, no.


Bacteria transfers from your baby’s mouth, into the bottle, contaminating the milk.


According to pretty much every authoritative source, you need to throw the milk out after your baby drinks from the bottle.


I’m just going to throw this out there though- I don’t.


Why? Because I’m lazy, cheap, and can be laid back to a fault.


I like to live life on the edge. I do things like eat my eggs over-easy when I’m pregnant and let my kids smack their heads on the bottom of the table when they stand up.


To be clear, I am NOT saying that you should follow my lead in regards to re-refrigerating used breastmilk.


In fact, I recommend that you don’t. Health and safety guidelines recommend that you don’t.


But if you do follow my lead, I won’t judge you.



How Long Can I store Breastmilk in the Fridge?


Again, when we are looking to authoritative sources we get slightly different answers about breastmilk storage.



Regardless, they all agree that you should move it to the freezer within 3 days if you don’t plan on using it.


When storing breastmilk in the fridge, you should always place it in the back. This ensures that the temperature stays as cool as possible.


The worst place to store breastmilk is in the door where it will be exposed to frequent bursts of warm air.


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How long can I store breastmilk in an insulated cooler?


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If you have plans to travel, or you need to pump while you are out of the house, you can safely store your breastmilk in an insulated cooler with ice packs for up to 24 hours.


If you are exclusively pumping, or want someone else to take the night shift, this is a convenient way to store breastmilk overnight.


It takes less time to heat, and saves you a trip to the refrigerator.

How Do I Freeze Breastmilk?

Freezing breastmilk is pretty easy and straight forward.


First, begin by washing your hands and your workspace.


Breastmilk storage bags are the most common option, though Milkies Milk Trays are also great.


Do not use small ziplock baggies to store breastmilk.


I’ve seen this going around on Pinterest and find it extremely stupid (though I have to admit, I almost did it when my first baby was born).


Breastmilk storage bags are thick, BPA free, and pre-sterilized for safe use.


Simply dump the expressed milk from the bottle into the breastmilk storage bag. Some women use the pumping flange as a funnel to prevent spills.


Milk should be stored in small amounts to prevent waste. Between two and four ounces per bag is ideal.


Remove as much air as possible before sealing. If using a hard plastic or glass container, leave one inch of air for expansion.


For the most efficient storage, lay flat to freeze. After the bag of milk is frozen solid, it can be propped up and stored like files in a filing cabinet.


Milkies Milk Trays are a great alternative. Each tray freezes eight 1oz “sticks” that fit into any bottle.


This enables you to thaw the exact amount that you need, without the stress of wasting milk.


How long can breastmilk be stored in the freezer?


Breastmilk can be stored for:


  • 6 months in a freezer that is attached to a fridge


  • 1 year in a deep freezer


Never store milk in the door because of the influx in temperature.


Breastmilk should always be stored toward the back of the freezer where temperature remains consistently cool.


How Do I Thaw Frozen Breastmilk?


Once you have frozen your breastmilk, there are a few different ways to thaw it out.


  • Move to the refrigerator overnight


  • Set in a bowl of lukewarm water


  • Place the bag (or bottle) under a stream of warm water


The slower you thaw breastmilk, the less fat and nutrients will be lost. This means that thawing it overnight in the refrigerator is ideal.


But sometimes your baby is hangry and you’re in a frenzy because there’s no milk in the fridge.


In that case, quickly thawing your breastmilk with warm water is perfectly safe and won’t hurt your baby in any way.


NEVER should you EVER heat up breastmilk in the microwave. Microwaving breastmilk kills its amazing antibodies, and worse- creates hot spots in the milk which can burn your baby’s mouth and throat.

How do i feed thawed milk to my baby

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This should be intuitive, but it’s actually not. Here are some things you should know:


  • Never heat the milk in the microwave. Again, it can scald your baby’s mouth, even after it has been swirled.


  • Place bottle in a bowl of warm or hot water (or a bottle warmer), but do not use boiling water. That will kill antibodies in the breastmilk.


  • Swirl the milk to mix it. Never shake a bottle of breastmilk. Shaking breastmilk breaks down the proteins.


  • Test the temperature on the inside of your wrist. It should be lukewarm or cooler.


  • You can feed baby cool milk. There is no rule that says they have to drink it warm. In fact, if you are exclusively pumping, feeding your baby cool milk will be much easier in the long run.


  • When heating milk, only heat it once. If baby does not drink it all, it can be refrigerated and served cool within two hours (<– I fail at this one too).


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How long is thawed breastmilk safe to use?


Two days. To be clear, that is two days from the time the milk is completely thawed out.


This means that if you put it in the freezer at 8pm on a Saturday night and it is thawed out by 8am on Sunday morning, the clock starts at 8am on Sunday.


Can I Re-Freeze Breastmilk?


That’s a big fat NO. The risks for contamination and bacteria growth go up substantially.


Even I won’t do that. Sorry.


Helpful tips for storing breastmilk

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  • Store milk in small quantities. 2-4 oz is ideal to eliminate waste.


  • Label milk with date, quantity, and name of child (if child will be going to daycare)


  • When measuring quantity, use the ounces on the bottle as opposed to the bag. When you dump the breastmilk into the bag, it will almost always look as though there is one extra ounce. This is confusing when you are trying to track how much your baby eats later.


  • When freezing in a breastmilk storage bag, lay milk on a flat surface until frozen solid.


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